Friday! {4.24.15}

How is it already the last Friday of April?? I feel like the winter dragged on and on, but this spring is racing by. We’ve got a busy weekend coming up, so let’s get right to my five.

ONE

I got my new glasses yesterday, and I love them. I ended up going with the ones that were initially my favorites (which so many of you liked too). It was so nice to give my eyes a break from my contacts – now that I have functional glasses again I may be doing that more often.

Warby Parker Reece Glasses

TWO

Last night Abbie completely shredded her pacifier with her teeth, so we made the decision to just drop it, cold turkey. If she’s chewing through them now, she’ll chew through any new ones, and I don’t need that choking hazard in my life. So, cold turkey it was. She was asking for it at bedtime and I had to keep telling her “broken” and “all gone.” It was so sad to hear her asking for it and not giving it to her. She had a little bit of trouble getting to sleep last night and was a little cranky this morning, but I’m hoping that will pass. Fingers crossed!

Bitten Pacifier

THREE

I went to the Just Between Friends consignment sale this morning for a blogger even and MAJORLY scored. Abbie is basically set for clothes for the whole summer, unless I decide to pick up a few more random things. I got some great deals (including an amazing amount of Gymboree), and the booster seat I was about to order from Amazon for half the price. I seriously love consignment sales.

JBF Sale

FOUR

I am hoping to FINALLY get my post up about essential oils next week so I can tell you guys just how amazing these things are, but in the meantime, I have started a usage group on Facebook. I joined a similar one before I started my oily journey, and it was a huge help to see what people were using them for… and still is! You can join my group here and learn all about the amazing things Young Living can do!

FIVE

I’m getting to the point that meal planning has become really repetitive and boring. I used to participate in a link up over on Jessica’s blog that was great to see what others were eating, and I was thinking of starting up something like that again. Thoughts? Would you want to see what we eat for dinners?

Well, I’m off – have a fabulous weekend all!

 

The Worst Thing You Can Say to a Working Mom

“I would never let someone else raise my children.”

If you’re a working mom, you’ve probably heard this sentence. Maybe you saw it in a Facebook post. Maybe you overheard someone saying it. Worst of all, maybe someone said it to your face.

I’m over two years into working motherhood. I’ve heard and read a lot of things about it – by working moms, by stay at home moms, by non-parents. I’ve heard both great things and awful things. But that sentence? That is one of the worst, and I’m not sure people who say it always understand how hurtful it can be.

Daycare and Raising Children

Being a working parent is often a choice, but many times it’s not. Chris and I live and work outside DC, which has one of the highest costs of living in the country. For most parents here, it just isn’t possible to live on one income, and often being a working mom isn’t a choice, it is a necessity. Now, I’ve said before that I know I’m meant to be a working mom and would likely work regardless of our situation. It’s just who I am, and I’m a better mom for it. Being a working mom helps me in raising my daughter, and that’s why it hurts so much when people use that sentence.

There are lots of ways to define parenting, but I think we can all agree on a few things. A good parent loves their child. A good parent provides for their child. A good parent provides guidance and nurtures their child. A good parent disciplines their child. A good parent teaches their child. A good parent fosters independence in their child.

Don’t I do all of those things?

Yes, from about 8 – 5:30, Monday through Friday, Abbie is at daycare. It’s about 9.5 hours a day (and for two of those, she’s napping). Yes, someone else is caring for her, giving her meals, entertaining her – but she’s not raising her. Chris and I are.

When we were choosing where Abbie would spend her days away from us, we were fortunate to find a daycare provider that has become an extension of us. She enforces our rules, gives her love and encouragement, and lets us know what’s going on during the day. Eventually, Abbie is going to go to school. Would you ever say that school is raising your children? No, and this is the same. With school, you are providing your child the opportunity to learn, and in doing so, being their parent. By choosing Abbie’s daycare provider, we are parenting her, providing her the opportunity to learn from other children, fostering her independence from us, and learning about different cultures, among many other things. THAT is raising her. Is that for everyone? Of course not, but it’s just different, as is every parenting choice.

Because what people forget in all of this is not only are we her parents, but that we choose who we leave our daughter with during the day. We choose what to send for her lunch. We choose what to dress her in every morning. We talk to her provider about her day. We advise her of any issues or things going on. Most importantly, we make the decisions, just as we’ve made the decision for us to both continue working. It’s a personal and economic decision for my family, but it also allows me to set an example for my daughter – that there are all different kinds of parents, and that she can have both a career and a family, if that’s what she wants. Being a good example for her is the best parenting we can do.

Daycare isn’t raising our daughter. We are.

Abbie the Toddler: 28 Months

I looked at the calendar today and realized it was the 21st… and it had been a long time since I did an Abbie update. I used to do these every month, but as time went on it was pretty similar month to month, so I stopped. I thought I’d just pop up a quick update – I don’t want to forget all these things about my two-year-old!

 Abbie 28 Months

I love this age because she just gets more interactive every single day. After a long time of little talking, Abbie’s vocabulary seems to finally be exploding. She learns more words every single day, and it’s amazing to watch how much she understands.

Abbiebug, we love you so much. Thank you for being ours.

Why I Didn’t Shop #LillyforTarget

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you probably know that yesterday Target released their much-hyped Lily for Target collection. Women flocked to Target to snag it…but I wasn’t one of them. I purposely didn’t even try. Instead, I watched the craziness unfold through social media, and it all went down just as I thought it would.

Now, I live in the south (as much as I fight it, Virginia is technically the south…), I’m a sorority girl, and I’m a mommy blogger. I’ve also been plus sized a good portion of my life, so Lily Pulitzer has mostly been out of my size range and budget. This collection should’ve been right up my alley, right? So why didn’t I shop?

Why I didn't shop Lilly for Target

 

The lines/expected inoperable website. Some of the photos of the lines I saw rivaled Black Friday (without the order and rules that accompany that). Here in northern Virginia, someone said the lines started at 4am. Target’s website kept crashing as people tried to get to things online and check out as quickly as they could. Things disappeared from people’s online shopping carts as they were checking out. This mama doesn’t have time for that. Where was I? Sleeping – like you’re supposed to do in the middle of the night.

Limited selection. Every time they do one of these collaborations, it’s limited, so by definition they’re only going to make so many. The plus sizes were only available online. I read that there was only one of each size in each store. There was never going to be enough for everyone, and honestly? I didn’t feel like fighting.

People are greedy. Many of those people standing in line apparently acted just as I thought they would. They took entire racks of stuff because they were the first ones there and could. I read stories of people selling things out of their carts. THEIR CARTS! At most stores, there were no buying restrictions, and much of the collection (if not all) is already up on eBay, selling for twice and three times the price. Greed is just ugly.

I’m not falling for it. All of the above? It happens almost every time Target does a collaboration with a high-end designer. When are we going to get it? It’s just creating more greed and breeding consumerism. I also thought the point of these collaborations was to make designers more accessible to the average person. Hello? Average person here. Not accessible to me with the problems above.

It’s just stuff! Is it cute stuff? Of course it is – there wouldn’t be demand for it if there wasn’t. Would I have bought some if it happened to still be there when I got there for other shopping at 11am? Probably. Instead, I spent yesterday morning with the things can’t buy at a store – my family. We had breakfast and went to the park. That’s way more important to me than things. Even if they are really cute.

What about you? Did you shop Lily for Target yesterday?

My Husband’s New Obsession

Lately, Chris has really gotten into Asian food, and specifically – potstickers. He’s asked me to buy them at the store nearly every week. Now if you know Chris in real life, you know he’s new to cooking. When we started dating, he survived on a lot of fast food, pasta, and frozen meatballs. Nowadays, that’s changed drastically – he loves helping me with meals and making his own lunches on the weekends. When we got the opportunity from Giant to try out their new World Menu line, I knew I would be heading straight for the potstickers.

I went over to Giant and picked out the obvious – Chicken and Vegetable Potstickers, but also checked out the rest of the line. I also picked up a lo mein stir fry from the Asian section, as well as two things from the Italian section – some fettuccine alfredo for me (Chris is crazy and doesn’t like alfredo sauce) and the ancient grain salad. The new line has lots of tasty-looking stuff, and a lot of it is pretty low in calories – the ancient grain salads I picked up are only 120 calories each. It fits well into the healthier lifestyle we all seem to be working on nowadays.

Giant World Menu

Anyway, Chris cooked up the potstickers the other day for lunch and loved them. Lots of flavor and super easy for him to make. In fact, I didn’t even get one, he ate them so fast.

Giant’s new World Menu line features more than 50 Italian and Asian dishes. They’re primarily in the frozen section and are easy to prepare. They make great, easy solutions during the work week and are a great way to get kids to pick out something new to try (maybe I’ll even get Chris to try some alfredo sauce one of these days). Since Giant is close by, they’re definitely going to be something I turn to when planning our menus for the week!

I was provided a gift card to purchase these items for review, but all opinions are my own.