When you become a mom, there are hundreds of things people tell you you’ll need – diapers, bottles, toys, clothes, and countless other gadgets. They tell you how to take care of your new baby, how your heart will grow multiple sizes, and how your marriage will change. People tell you so many things you need, but they often leave out one of the most important things you need – mom friends.
Motherhood is a strange beast. It is sometimes all encompassing, taking everything you’ve got; other times you think, oh, I can totally handle this. No day is ever the same, even if you’ve got a solid routine going. There are days that you feel on top of the world, and there are days you want to hide from your kids in the bathroom for just five more minutes. That’s what your mom friends are for. They just get it.
Mom friends get it when you say you can’t take one more episode of Peppa Pig. They get it when you need coffee in an IV. They get you when you talk about the most random of things, like when you last shaved your legs, the Gymboree clearance sale, and if your kid is EVER going to potty train.
But getting your kids and the struggles that come with raising them is not the only reason you need mom friends. You need mom friends simply because they get YOU and exactly what you’re going through.
I was one of the first people in my circle of friends to become a mom, and until many of them had kids too, it was hard for them to relate to my life, and equally hard for me to relate to theirs. That’s where mom friends come in, and truthfully, they can be hard to find. But once you find them? Hold onto them forever. The best ones will pick you up when you’re having a bad day and will always listen. They won’t cringe when you tell them your latest crazy kid story, but will instead share one of their own. They will support you on the hard days and celebrate with you on the easy ones. They will remind you that underneath all the mom stuff, you’re still you. They’ll remind you that you are much more than just a mom. If you’re lucky, they are the friends that understand you fully, and see your heart in everything you do.
They’re the women you can laugh with, cry with, and drink coffee and wine with. Their friendship gives you the support you never knew you needed, but couldn’t live without. When you become a mom, seek them out. They may be women you already know, women at work, or women you meet online. You will need them. Find them and never let them go.