Tomorrow, I’ll be 35 weeks pregnant. I remember that day from my first pregnancy vividly – 35 weeks down and 35 days to go. It’s also about the time that in my first pregnancy, I started really wondering how labor and delivery would go. I started really thinking about what I wanted and who I wanted there, and what needed to go in my hospital bag. Then there was the big plan other moms were talking about – the “birth plan.”
Those other moms I talked to were meticulously planning, stressed over their birth plans, making them just right. They planned everything from the music they wanted to how long they would go without pain medicine (if they had any). They planned positions they would labor in and prayers they wanted to say while in labor. Honestly, I never did any of that. I trusted that when the time came, my doctors and nurses would guide me through it. I trusted that with the support of Chris and my mom, I would be okay. By all accounts, I was pretty laid back about it last time – Chris and I didn’t even do the labor class at the hospital (mostly because at our hospital it was close to $200 and seemed like a waste of money to me). And honestly? For me, it was the right decision – because I was okay.
While I did have a few complications with Abbie’s birth, it was nothing too serious and I pretty much got what I wanted. So this time? I’m aiming for almost the same. I don’t want to put too much stress on the labor and delivery process since it’s stressful enough as it is!
So this time, my birth plan consists of the following, with only one thing added from last time:
- Healthy baby
- Healthy mommy
- Avoid a C-section unless medically necessary
- Have only Chris and my mom in the room
- Get the epidural
- Avoid the magnesium drip that made me so sick afterward last time
So those detailed, printed out birth plans? Not for me. I totally get why they make other moms more comfortable, but aroundhere we’re keeping things simple. Simple and whatever keeps everyone healthy is what I want.
That and an epidural.