When you become a mom, there are hundreds of things people tell you you’ll need – diapers, bottles, toys, clothes, and countless other gadgets. They tell you how to take care of your new baby, how your heart will grow multiple sizes, and how your marriage will change. People tell you so many things you need, but they often leave out one of the most important things you need – mom friends.
Motherhood is a strange beast. It is sometimes all encompassing, taking everything you’ve got; other times you think, oh, I can totally handle this. No day is ever the same, even if you’ve got a solid routine going. There are days that you feel on top of the world, and there are days you want to hide from your kids in the bathroom for just five more minutes. That’s what your mom friends are for. They just get it.
Mom friends get it when you say you can’t take one more episode of Peppa Pig. They get it when you need coffee in an IV. They get you when you talk about the most random of things, like when you last shaved your legs, the Gymboree clearance sale, and if your kid is EVER going to potty train.
But getting your kids and the struggles that come with raising them is not the only reason you need mom friends. You need mom friends simply because they get YOU and exactly what you’re going through.
I was one of the first people in my circle of friends to become a mom, and until many of them had kids too, it was hard for them to relate to my life, and equally hard for me to relate to theirs. That’s where mom friends come in, and truthfully, they can be hard to find. But once you find them? Hold onto them forever. The best ones will pick you up when you’re having a bad day and will always listen. They won’t cringe when you tell them your latest crazy kid story, but will instead share one of their own. They will support you on the hard days and celebrate with you on the easy ones. They will remind you that underneath all the mom stuff, you’re still you. They’ll remind you that you are much more than just a mom. If you’re lucky, they are the friends that understand you fully, and see your heart in everything you do.
They’re the women you can laugh with, cry with, and drink coffee and wine with. Their friendship gives you the support you never knew you needed, but couldn’t live without. When you become a mom, seek them out. They may be women you already know, women at work, or women you meet online. You will need them. Find them and never let them go.
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Some of my favorite people are Mom friends. They get me, my current lifestyle and we know that judgement isn’t what we need, love is!
Exactly! Now if only I could meet all my internet mom friends in real life….
Awww love this and love you! I am so excited for Florida, we are going to have SO MUCH FUN!!
? you too!!! Can’t wait for June!
Yes yes yes! I honestly feel here are times I need my mom friends more than my hubby. Bad I know but they fully get it. Great post!
I know! They just understand so much better sometimes!
What a great post! I’m not a mom yet (hope to be soon though) but my best friend is a mom. She was the first of our friends to have babies and she told me how great it was for her to join a mom group so she could have other mom friends. Great advice for this hopeful mom!
Best of luck to you! It really is so important to surround yourself with people who get you!
Totally understand and everything you have said is true. Until you watch or listen to the same cartoon, movie or potty training you just don’t understand.
Exactly! Besides, I doubt my non-mom friends want to hear about all that!
I had a really close mom friend who recently I had a falling out with. I would really like another mom friend that I am super comfortable around that I can just hang out with. This reminds me of that.
Aw I’m so sorry to hear that! I hope you find another one soon!
Yes! It is so great to have mom friends. They are a perfect support system.
They truly are!
I think it’s easier to make friends as a mom…and I definitely wouldn’t make it without my mom friends! ?
You definitely have more in common so making them can be easier!
Mom friends are definitely more likely to understand your little gripes that you may have throughout the day. People without kids just won’t be able to give you the sympathies that you need!
With Love Rochelle
So true!