Linking up for Baby Talk!
A lot of people have brought up the subject of working mom vs. stay at home mom. Honestly? I think the debate is pointless, and only makes moms feel guilty about the choices they have to make. It’s time to stop the mommy wars.
Rather than go back and forth about pros vs. cons of all this, I thought I’d tell you my situation – why I’m a I’m working mom, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
By nature, I’m a busy person. Sure, I had lazy days in college and still do occasionally, but I’m happier when I’m busy. When there’s an event to plan. When there’s people to go see and things to do and places to go. I’m also a person that’s used to adult interaction every day, and I enjoy being a member of a team. I like that when I go to work, people are genuinely happy to see me, and I’m needed. I enjoy my job and the people I work with.
I also love my family – so, so much. I miss my baby girl when I’m at work, but if I’m being honest? Sometimes I’m able to get lost in the flow of work, of adult interactions. I get a sense of accomplishment when I finish a project, and when I help others with theirs. Motherhood isn’t like that to me – it’s not a series of projects you get to finish. Motherhood is never done. It’s always changing. It’s the most rewarding thing in the world, but it’s simply different from being at work.
Financially speaking, I need to work to help support our family. We have goals for the future, and my working is an integral part of them. I used to think that I’d love to be a stay-at-home mom, but now that I’m a mom, I know I’d have a tough time with it. I know Abbie would get frustrating sometimes. I know it would still seem like I couldn’t get everything done. I think if our financial situation were different…I’d still work, at least part-time. That time is important to me, and gives me a different purpose besides wife and mother – I’m also a career woman, and one that works to provide for my family.
Plus, the smile on Abbie’s face when I get home from work? Too precious for words. Sometimes it’s nice to be missed.
Of course, this is just me. I have friends who are stay-at-home moms, friends who work part-time, and friends who work full-time like myself. Guess what? They’re ALL good moms.
And just for fun…here’s some baby giggles.